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Although mesothelioma, also known as asbestos cancer, is a rare disease, it is one of the most lethal forms of cancer ever diagnosed. Additionally, it’s one of the most difficult types of cancer to detect because of its long period of dormancy: a mesothelioma patient can live between 20 to 50 years before the first symptoms show up. When a patient does become symptomatic, doctors often lose precious treatment time because mesothelioma warning signs mimic symptoms of common respiratory ailments. In addition, it is also an aggressive type of cancer that can spread quickly from the affected body areas to other organs. These factors, when combined with the demographics of who is more susceptible to the disease, make mesothelioma especially deadly. If you or a loved one suffer from mesothelioma, asbestos-related lung cancer, or asbestosis, you may qualify for substantial compensation. Currently, there is over $30 billion in asbestos trust funds, awaiting those who’ve been diagnosed with an asbestos illness. We invite you to fill out our form today for a free Financial Compensation Packet, filled with information about top mesothelioma lawyers in your area, how to get paid in 90 days, how to file an asbestos trust fund claim, and much more. Statistics According to a 2009 report by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), 18,068 patients diagnosed with malignant mesothelioma died between 1999 and 2005. Though year-to-year figures may vary, the annual death rate of mesothelioma patients is an average of 14 per every million. When compared, this is still a small percentage of the entire population. Yet, its particular lethality and relative rarity make mesothelioma a disease with extremely low survival rates. Although survival rates in mesothelioma patients depend on a wide range of factors, a patient can expect an post-diagnosis survival time of between four months to a year and a half. Keep in mind, however, that there are always exceptions to this rule and each patient should talk to their physician about their own personal health and expectations. Generally, how long a patient lives after mesothelioma has been diagnosed depends on an array of variables such as age, gender, race, and overall health. For instance, if a patient is a male between 25 and 34 years of age and in good physical condition with no preexisting conditions, his chances of surviving longer than 18 months are promising. Patients such as these benefit from early detection and surgical treatment of the disease. Keep in mind, however, that this age group is one of the least affected by asbestos-related cancer. The average survival rates for older patients is bleaker. According to the American Cancer Society (ACC), even though 5-10% of patients diagnosed with mesothelioma can live for five years or more after the initial diagnosis, these individuals are usually young with cancers that can be surgically treated. Since the average mesothelioma patient tends to be a white male aged 60-70 who was heavily exposed to asbestos during his active work years, the cancer is already well-developed and can’t be treated with surgery. Older patients also may have debilitating health issues, such as cardiopulmonary diseases and hypertension, which help to reduce their lifespans. Patients in these two age brackets (65-74 and 75-84) have the highest death totals. From the years 1999 through 2005, 12,150 out of the 18,068 recorded mesothelioma deaths were happened to victims ages 65 through 84. Survival Rate Facts to Consider Generally speaking, it is typically difficult, if not impossible, to predict accurate life expectancy after a patient is diagnosed with mesothelioma. Along with each patient’s case being different from the next, the disease is still considered a new and a unique form of cancer, and averages based on the tumor-lymph node-metastasis (TNM) staging process are still difficult to evaluate at this point. However, studies suggest that a patient’s post-diagnosis life expectancy will depend on a combination of several factors: Latency: Unfortunately, mesothelioma has an extremely long latency period, typically up to 20 to 50 years after exposure. This makes it difficult to get an early detection, therefore, shortening survival rate. The sooner the disease is detected, the higher your life expectancy and survival rate. The Stage of the Disease After Diagnosis: Victims in Stage I or II of the disease have a much better survival rate than those who are diagnosed in later stages. Tumor Removal: Surgery is usually not an option as most cases of mesothelioma are discovered after the disease has advanced to its later stages. However, if the disease is caught early and the tumor can be surgically removed, survival rate is usually prolonged. Age: As aforementioned, age plays a huge role. The younger the patient, the better chance they have in surviving longer and increasing life expectancy. Yet, although rare, older patients in optimal physical health may has just as good of a chance as younger patients. Area of the Disease: Mesothelioma affects different regions of the body. The majority of mesothelioma cases affect the pleural area of the body, but there are instances in which the abdominal cavity and other body areas will be impacted by the disease. Since pleural mesothelioma is the easiest to treat, victims with this form of mesothelioma have a higher life expectancy. However, victims with epithelial mesothelioma have the highest survival rates of all forms of the disease. Additional Information for Patients to Consider Although the grim facts of survival rates of mesothelioma can be discouraging, keep in mind that the statistics do not reflect everyone’s situation. For example, an Australian victim named Paul Kraus has been living with mesothelioma after being diagnosed in 1997. This is just one of the several instances in which victims have went on to defy the odds and live much longer than the average life expectancy of a mesothelioma victim. Per the ACC, all victims should remember that current statistics are based on patients that have been treated many years ago. As science progresses, the life and expectancy and survival rate may improve for more victims as mesothelioma treatment options advance. Getting Legal Help If you’ve been injured by asbestos, keep in mind that there is a good chance that you’ll qualify for considerable compensation. Don’t forget to fill out our form to get our free Financial Compensation Packet, filled with information on the leading asbestos and mesothelioma attorneys in your area. If you have questions or need additional assistance, contact us at 800-793-4540.

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Pernikahan itu telah berjalan empat (4) tahun, namun pasangan suami isteri itu belum dikurniai seorang anak. Dan mulailah kanan kiri berbisik-bisik: “Masih belum punya anak juga ya, masalahnya pada siapa ya? Suaminya atau isterinya ya?”. Dari berbisik-bisik, akhirnya menjadi buah mulut .

Tanpa sepengetahuan siapa pun, suami isteri itu pergi ke salah seorang doktor untuk konsultasi, dan melakukan pemeriksaaan. Hasil ujian makmal mengatakan bahwa sang isteri adalah seorang wanita yang mandul, sementara sang suami tidak ada masalah apa pun dan tidak ada harapan bagi sang isteri untuk sembuh dalam arti tidak peluang baginya untuk hamil dan mempunyai anak.

Melihat hasil seperti itu, sang suami mengucapkan: inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un, lalu menyambungnya dengan ucapan: Alhamdulillah.

Sang suami seorang diri memasuki ruang doktor dengan membawa hasil ujian makmal dan sama sekali tidak memberitahu isterinya dan membiarkan sang isteri menunggu di ruang tunggu perempuan yang terpisah dari kaum laki-laki. Sang suami berkata kepada sang doktor: “Saya akan panggil istri saya untuk masuk ruangan, akan tetapi, tolong, nanti anda jelaskan kepada isteri saya bahwa masalahnya ada pada saya, sementara dia tidak ada masalah apa-apa.

Hasil gambar untuk ilustrasi suami dan istri muslim
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Terus saja sang doktor menolak dan terheran-heran. Akan tetapi sang suami terus memaksa sang doktor, akhirnya sang doktor setuju untuk mengatakan kepada sang isteri bahwa masalah tidak datangnya keturunan, ada pada sang suami dan bukan ada pada sang isteri.

Sang suami memanggil sang isteri yang telah lama menunggunya, dan tampak pada wajahnya kesedihan dan kemuraman. Lalu bersama sang isteri ia memasuki ruang doktor. Maka sang dokter membuka sampul hasil ujian makmal, lalu membaca dan mentelaahnya, dan kemudian ia berkata: “… Oooh, kamu –wahai fulan- yang mandul, sementara isterimu tidak ada masalah, dan tidak ada harapan bagimu untuk sembuh.

Mendengar pengumuman sang doktor, sang suami berkata: inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un, dan terlihat pada raut wajahnya, wajah seseorang yang menyerah kepada qadha dan qadar Allah SWT.
Lalu pasangan suami isteri itu pulang ke rumahnya, dan secara perlahan namun pasti, tersebarlah berita tentang rahasia tersebut ke para tetangga, kerabat dan sanak saudara.

Lima (5) tahun berlalu dari peristiwa tersebut dan sepasang suami isteri bersabar, sampai akhirnya datanglah detik-detik yang sangat menegangkan, di mana sang isteri berkata kepada suaminya:

“Wahai suami ku , saya telah bersabar selam sembilan (9) tahun, saya tahan-tahan untuk bersabar dan tidak meminta cerai darimu, dan selama ini semua orang berkata:” betapa baik dan shalihah-nya sang isteri itu yang terus setia mendampingi suaminya selama sembilan tahun, padahal dia tahu kalau dari suaminya, ia tidak akan memperoleh keturunan”. Namun, sekarang rasanya saya sudah tidak dapat bersabar lagi, saya ingin agar engkau segera menceraikan saya, agar saya boleh menikah dengan lelaki lain dan mempunyai keturunan darinya, sehingga saya dapat melihat anak-anakku, menimangnya dan mengasuhnya.

Mendengar emosi sang isteri yang memuncak, sang suami berkata: “isteriku, ini cubaan dari Allah SWT, kita mesti bersabar, kita mesti …, mesti … dan mesti …”. Singkatnya, bagi sang isteri, suaminya malah berceramah di hadapannya.

Akhirnya sang istri berkata: “OK, saya akan tahan kesabaranku satu tahun lagi, ingat, hanya satu tahun, tidak lebih”. Sang suami setuju, dan dalam dirinya, dipenuhi harapan besar, semoga Allah SWT memberi jalan keluar yang terbaik bagi keduanya.

Beberapa hari kemudian, tiba-tiba sang isteri jatuh sakit, dan hasil ujian makmal mengatakan bahwa sang isteri mengalami gagal ginjal. Mendengar keterangan tersebut, jatuhnya psikologis sang isteri, dan mulailah memuncak emosinya. Ia berkata kepada suaminya: “Semua ini gara-gara kamu, selama ini aku menahan kesabaranku, dan jadilah sekarang aku seperti ini, kenapa selama ini kamu tidak segera menceraikan saya, saya kan ingin punya anak, saya ingin membelai dan menimang bayi, saya kan … saya kan …”. Sang istri pun terlantar di hospital.

Di saat yang genting itu, tiba-tiba suaminya berkata: “Maaf, saya ada tugas keluar negeri, dan saya berharap semoga engkau baik-baik saja”. “Haah, pergi?”. Kata sang isteri. “Ya, saya akan pergi kerana tugas dan sambil mencari donatur ginjal, semoga dapat”.
Kata sang suami.

Sehari sebelum pembedahan , datanglah sang donatur ke tempat pembaringan sang istri. Maka disepakatilah bahwa besok akan dilakukan operasi pemasangan ginjal dari sang donatur.

Saat itu sang isteri teringat suaminya yang pergi, ia berkata dalam dirinya: “Suami tak berguna dia itu, isterinya dibedah , eh dia malah pergi meninggalkan diriku terkapar dalam ruang pembedahan”.

Pembedahan berhasil dengan sangat baik. Setelah satu minggu , suaminya datang, dan tampaklah pada wajahnya tanda-tanda orang yang kelelahan. Ketahuilah bahwa sang donatur itu tidak ada lain orang melainkan sang suami itu sendiri. Ya, suaminya telah menghibahkan satu ginjalnya untuk istrinya, tanpa sepengetahuan sang isteri, tetangga dan siapa pun selain doktor yang dipesannya agar menutup rapat rahsia tersebut.

Dan subhanallah …
Setelah sembilan (9) bulan dari pembedahan itu, sang isteri melahirkan anak. Maka bergembiralah suami istri tersebut, keluarga besar dan para tetangga.

Suasana rumah tangga kembali normal, dan sang suami telah menyelesaikan studi S2 dan S3-nya di sebuah fakulti syari’ah dan telah bekerja sebagai seorang panitera di sebuah mahkamah di Jeddah. Ia pun telah menyelesaikan hafalan Al-Qur’an dan mendapatkan sanad dengan riwayat Hafs, dari ‘Ashim.

Pada suatu hari, sang suami ada tugas out station, dan ia lupa menyimpan buku hariannya dari atas meja, buku harian yang selama ini ia sembunyikan. Dan tanpa sengaja, sang isteri mendapatkan buku harian tersebut, membuka-bukanya dan membacanya. Hampir saja ia terjatuh pingsan saat menemukan rahsia tentang diri dan rumah tangganya. Ia menangis meraung-raung. Setelah agak reda, ia menelefon suaminya, dan menangis sejadi-jadinya, ia berkali-kali mengulang permohonan maaf dari suaminya. Sang suami hanya dapat membalas suara telefon isterinya dengan menangis pula.

Dan setelah peristiwa tersebut, selama tiga bulan sang isteri tidak berani menatap wajah suaminya. Jika ada keperluan, ia berkata dengan menundukkan mukanya, tidak ada kekuatan untuk memandangnya sama sekali. (*)

Although mesothelioma, also known as asbestos cancer, is a rare disease, it is one of the most lethal forms of cancer ever diagnosed. Additionally, it’s one of the most difficult types of cancer to detect because of its long period of dormancy: a mesothelioma patient can live between 20 to 50 years before the first symptoms show up. When a patient does become symptomatic, doctors often lose precious treatment time because mesothelioma warning signs mimic symptoms of common respiratory ailments. In addition, it is also an aggressive type of cancer that can spread quickly from the affected body areas to other organs. These factors, when combined with the demographics of who is more susceptible to the disease, make mesothelioma especially deadly. If you or a loved one suffer from mesothelioma, asbestos-related lung cancer, or asbestosis, you may qualify for substantial compensation. Currently, there is over $30 billion in asbestos trust funds, awaiting those who’ve been diagnosed with an asbestos illness. We invite you to fill out our form today for a free Financial Compensation Packet, filled with information about top mesothelioma lawyers in your area, how to get paid in 90 days, how to file an asbestos trust fund claim, and much more. Statistics According to a 2009 report by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), 18,068 patients diagnosed with malignant mesothelioma died between 1999 and 2005. Though year-to-year figures may vary, the annual death rate of mesothelioma patients is an average of 14 per every million. When compared, this is still a small percentage of the entire population. Yet, its particular lethality and relative rarity make mesothelioma a disease with extremely low survival rates. Although survival rates in mesothelioma patients depend on a wide range of factors, a patient can expect an post-diagnosis survival time of between four months to a year and a half. Keep in mind, however, that there are always exceptions to this rule and each patient should talk to their physician about their own personal health and expectations. Generally, how long a patient lives after mesothelioma has been diagnosed depends on an array of variables such as age, gender, race, and overall health. For instance, if a patient is a male between 25 and 34 years of age and in good physical condition with no preexisting conditions, his chances of surviving longer than 18 months are promising. Patients such as these benefit from early detection and surgical treatment of the disease. Keep in mind, however, that this age group is one of the least affected by asbestos-related cancer. The average survival rates for older patients is bleaker. According to the American Cancer Society (ACC), even though 5-10% of patients diagnosed with mesothelioma can live for five years or more after the initial diagnosis, these individuals are usually young with cancers that can be surgically treated. Since the average mesothelioma patient tends to be a white male aged 60-70 who was heavily exposed to asbestos during his active work years, the cancer is already well-developed and can’t be treated with surgery. Older patients also may have debilitating health issues, such as cardiopulmonary diseases and hypertension, which help to reduce their lifespans. Patients in these two age brackets (65-74 and 75-84) have the highest death totals. From the years 1999 through 2005, 12,150 out of the 18,068 recorded mesothelioma deaths were happened to victims ages 65 through 84. Survival Rate Facts to Consider Generally speaking, it is typically difficult, if not impossible, to predict accurate life expectancy after a patient is diagnosed with mesothelioma. Along with each patient’s case being different from the next, the disease is still considered a new and a unique form of cancer, and averages based on the tumor-lymph node-metastasis (TNM) staging process are still difficult to evaluate at this point. However, studies suggest that a patient’s post-diagnosis life expectancy will depend on a combination of several factors: Latency: Unfortunately, mesothelioma has an extremely long latency period, typically up to 20 to 50 years after exposure. This makes it difficult to get an early detection, therefore, shortening survival rate. The sooner the disease is detected, the higher your life expectancy and survival rate. The Stage of the Disease After Diagnosis: Victims in Stage I or II of the disease have a much better survival rate than those who are diagnosed in later stages. Tumor Removal: Surgery is usually not an option as most cases of mesothelioma are discovered after the disease has advanced to its later stages. However, if the disease is caught early and the tumor can be surgically removed, survival rate is usually prolonged. Age: As aforementioned, age plays a huge role. The younger the patient, the better chance they have in surviving longer and increasing life expectancy. Yet, although rare, older patients in optimal physical health may has just as good of a chance as younger patients. Area of the Disease: Mesothelioma affects different regions of the body. The majority of mesothelioma cases affect the pleural area of the body, but there are instances in which the abdominal cavity and other body areas will be impacted by the disease. Since pleural mesothelioma is the easiest to treat, victims with this form of mesothelioma have a higher life expectancy. However, victims with epithelial mesothelioma have the highest survival rates of all forms of the disease. Additional Information for Patients to Consider Although the grim facts of survival rates of mesothelioma can be discouraging, keep in mind that the statistics do not reflect everyone’s situation. For example, an Australian victim named Paul Kraus has been living with mesothelioma after being diagnosed in 1997. This is just one of the several instances in which victims have went on to defy the odds and live much longer than the average life expectancy of a mesothelioma victim. Per the ACC, all victims should remember that current statistics are based on patients that have been treated many years ago. As science progresses, the life and expectancy and survival rate may improve for more victims as mesothelioma treatment options advance. Getting Legal Help If you’ve been injured by asbestos, keep in mind that there is a good chance that you’ll qualify for considerable compensation. Don’t forget to fill out our form to get our free Financial Compensation Packet, filled with information on the leading asbestos and mesothelioma attorneys in your area. If you have questions or need additional assistance, contact us at 800-793-4540.

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